Comments for Fatal Attraction’s muddled message highlights the core of issues assailing any relationship at http://alisa-miller.com , comment 1 to 3 out of 3 comments http://alisa-miller.com Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:15:05 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.3 http://alisa-miller.com/perfect-relationship-blog/214-fatal-attractions-muddled-message-highlights-the-core-of-issues-assailing-any-relationship.html#comment-192 Hmmmn, some pretty good food for thought. Question: Did you know that the original ending has Alex (G. Close) commit suicide yet it looks as if Dan (M. Douglas) has killed her and is arrested for murder? ~ This does not change what you are stating, it does adhere more to the psychosis of Alex. Makes the movie less popular. And we possibly do not have this example to have this forum to hash these relationship issues out with. ~ Fact is- some people like to cheat. They lack a truthful desire to allow for themselves to embrace the intimacy they have fostered. Shy? Bashful? Narcissist? Abusive past? Sexually non-satiated? Too many possibilities to run with on this, so let us look at the basics: two contemporaries, both progressive, finding similarities and hearing accolades that have not been uttered to/by either of them in a) a long time, b) an alluring manner. What should have been a novel crush- because he is a good guy is dashed on a complementary lust drive. If she really wanted a good guy: she would have gone home alone, his acts undermine her stated wants. His pursuit because his family is away is a rouse, he wants to do as other 'successful men' have done- maintain the wife and a mistress or a myriad fling with someone that remembers what it was like to have to pursue someone and not find complacency in what they perceive marriage to be. The promise, or the breakdown of the promise starts with Dan and Beth (A. Archer) during their courtship. He not wishing to loose her fails to communicate honestly. They get married, he still never owns up to some moment or feeling or desire and this gets further complicated with having a child and progressing through the law firm. His own sub-conscious is railing at him for 'existing' within a little lie which gives him the justification in committing his act. He feels broken, and is looking for someone else who may well be as broken in which to learn from and repair that part of the psyche. So it is a given that he would fall for Alex, it is part of his own self destruction that he would act on that emotion. It is part of her self destruction that she would try to kill herself in an effort to attain attention from her obsessive desire and then to try and eliminate the object of his love. I think in the simplest of conclusions: the lust/love see-saw that starts a relationship and helps it grow and blossom into something more when you add trust and belief was flawed from the start for our Dan and Alex. Neither of them had ever experienced and appreciated unconditional love and we not 'whole' enough to accept the changes that life brings. Their reliance on being physically expressive of their emotions is a lonesome limitation. As always, thanks! Take care! ~K~ - krishna Mon, 10 Aug 2009 19:37:54 +0100 http://alisa-miller.com/perfect-relationship-blog/214-fatal-attractions-muddled-message-highlights-the-core-of-issues-assailing-any-relationship.html#comment-189 at the end of the day he just wanted to get in for a bit of fun but his wife wos far better looking there are a lot of married girls who look at some men and they just want to fuck the brains out of them but they dont becouse they know its not wright thats what i think any way but who am i to say so. - dave Mon, 10 Aug 2009 12:45:11 +0100 http://alisa-miller.com/perfect-relationship-blog/214-fatal-attractions-muddled-message-highlights-the-core-of-issues-assailing-any-relationship.html#comment-188 I actually saw this when it first came out and I must admit I was more focused on the hot sex scenes than anything else but yes when you put it this way I can see that there are issues it does not answer. - tony Sun, 09 Aug 2009 15:00:42 +0100