Everyone thinks that a perfect relationship is one where you never argue and everything happens without any effort at all. Romantic moments, thoughtful gifts, candle-lit dinners and days out that seem to be straight out of a Hollywood romantic film do not (and indeed, cannot) happen just like that.
It doesn’t however mean that it is all an uphill struggle or as hard as breaking rocks. Quite on the contrary. A perfect relationship is one where both partners are aware of each other, anticipate each other’s needs and know each others strengths and weaknesses and work to complement one and strengthen the other.
Perfect relationships are never automatic. They are always the result of a certain amount of willingness to think in a different perspective within the relationship, understand how the connection between two people works and then go ahead and take the right kind of action that will take a good relationship to the next level and start to create that truly perfect relationship.
So what does it take exactly?
Well, how about a small thing like maintaining the element of surprise and freshness in a relationship that will stop each partner from taking the other one for granted? A small gift in the morning, a flower, a butterfly, a bar of chocolate, a favourite coffee prepared with extra care, a handful of nuts. Anything and everything that seems so natural when you are a couple that has got past that awkward initial moment of courting and are comfortable with each other but have not yet got down to a ‘routine’, is also capable of injecting a sense of excitement, freshness and adventure in your relationship.
Little things like that cost next to nothing and yet scream of thoughtfulness, care and a love for each other. Think what your partner would like and surprise them with it. It is small, inexpensive and yet, at the same time fun to do and enjoyable.
Does it take some effort? Yes, of course it does. But at the same time it energises a relationship and tells the other person that just because they are now part of a secure arrangement they have not been forgotten, nor have they stopped being seen as exciting and fun.
Try it and see what a difference it can make to the way you relate to each other.