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| Slept with her mum’s boyfriend |
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When it comes to women and sexuality I have often said that there really is no sisterhood. A woman is biologically programmed to compete with every other woman for men and this often impacts, negatively, upon our general behavior and the friendships and relationships we form. An email I received this morning came from Jane who is only 18. Jane lives at home with her mum who is divorced and her mum’s boyfriend who does not always live there. “His name is Paul,” says Jane “and he has this super cool chopper bike he rides around in. He is by far the best guy my mum has ever dated and I think he is a lot of fun.” Jane and Paul found themselves alone in the house one weekday this past summer. “It was hot and I was sunbathing and he was in the backyard messing with his bike,” recalls Jane, “we were just talking about guys and girls and what it’s like being in love and school and stuff. He offered me a beer and it was hot and I said yes and then we had another.” The conversation between them seemed to be getting more intimate and Jane recalls that she felt very attracted to him. She knew he was looking at her as she sunbathed and it made her feel sexy and wanted. “I know he is my mum’s guy but that day the beer and the sun and conversation all seemed to come together. I started to flirt a little with my body, watching the way he reacted as I moved.” What happened next is predictable. Jane and Paul ended up on her mother’s house living room floor, making fast, furious love on the floor by the couch. “I know it is wrong. I know that,” says Jane, “I also know that it was really exciting and fantastic and I found his passion irresistible. He is the first older man I have been with and it was a totally different experience for me.” When her mother returned from work that day Paul made his excuses and left and Jane tried to be as casual as possible. “It’s been now a few weeks and Paul and I have never talked about it. When he stays over and has sex with my mum I wonder if he is thinking of what went on between us at all. My mum is really happy with him and I really do not want to spoil this. I really don’t. I just wonder whether I should talk to him about it, or talk to my mum. I feel really guilty every time I think of what I did but I also find it exciting. He was so different to any other boyfriend I had. I wonder, should I say something. Should I just pretend it never happened? I feel really torn by my conscience and the strength of my experience with Paul. I really love my mum but I know that she also has been true to herself at all costs and this is why I am writing in. Should I follow my heart and my self and really try to get to the bottom of this? Tags: 
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