Trying to find ‘the One’
While I receive many emails each week some are not suitable for publication and others fall in similar, broad categories and I decide not to publish them to avoid repeating subjects. Some, however, offer a fresh take on an issue and they are worth considering. Most are, as you might expect, from women, mainly because we are more willing to accept that we need help in a relationship, while men will bravely (and foolishly) battle on until everything is beyond hope. This one is from a man, called Hassan, who is facing an interesting dilemma.


“I first met Neda six years ago. We were both students in different courses at the same University and our social circles touched a little. I fell in love with her instantly. Her beauty, personality and intelligence drew me with an irresistible passion and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. We both come from a culture where personal relationships are subject to parental approval and her family were set against me.

“I tried to talk to Neda and see how she felt and what she would like to do but the opportunities were really few. I think she felt about me the same way I felt about her. About six months after we met I heard she was moving to another University and I learnt a little later that she was getting married to a much older man.”

For Hassan that was a blow which hurt in ways he never expressed to anyone. “Four years have passed since then and though I have tried to form relationships with other women I always fail. I think she was the one for me and I have now lost my chance forever. I do not know if other people have experienced anything similar or I am a freak. Maybe I am destined to go through life alone.”


 
 
 
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For Hassan, my culture is very different and I really doo feel the pain that you are going through. When we find that person that takes our soul away and they can not be part of our life it does hurt. No reason that u can not keep her in your heart. But u need to let go and try to find peace and be happy. who knows there really could be a soul mate out there waiting.
Doris , November 19, 2009
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Yeh stop crying over spilt milk. Hassan is ruining his chances with a potentially great woman who truly loves him for him, because he's too busy crying over a woman who wasn't into him in the first place.
Willz , November 20, 2009
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I agree witl Will here.
Leona , November 22, 2009

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