Paying for sex should be legal (and it’s good for your relationship)
A UK government financed Mori poll revealed that today 59 percent of those adults asked thought prostitution is a perfectly reasonable line of work and 37 percent would not consider a member of their family working in the industry to be a stigma as such.
You might be right to think that we live in progressive, open-minded times. Times which have seen an increase in open sexualization worldwide and have made porn stars such as Jenna Jameson into mainstream divas. It is healthy, after all, to admit that we all have a sex drive and it needs to be satisfied at least from time to time and, in a civilized society, there should be a way of doing this without resorting to illegal practices and their attendant risks nor into deceptive behavior which is going to lead to broken promises and damaged emotions.
After all, historically, no-strings attached sex whether for money or out of a sense of duty has been a part of history practised at the doorsteps of garrisons and the special areas of temples. So why this article and what has the exchange of money for sex got to do with your relationship?
Well, plenty as it turns out, because in our so-called enlightened times our seemingly prurient society which has seen a doubling of the number of lap dancing clubs in Britain in just four years, is also suffering from a backlash of moral indignation which is threatening to derail advances and cast us back into some kind of Victorian morality where the sexual act is regarded as both sacred and profane.
In truth it is neither. It is natural and it is healthy and it should be treated as such and, I suppose, encouraged in just about any form as long as no one is getting hurt.
I know that this cry for the legalization of prostitution is a far cry from what you would expect from a relationship expert, after all, is not prostitution or rather the easy availability of paid sex, just another nail in the coffin of a stable, happy relationship?
If you believe that it is you should be up there with the Flat Earthers and the Moon is made of cheese brigade. A person who is entirely happy in their relationship is no more likely to think about visiting a sex professional than your aunt Mabel is likely to become the next Wal Mart mall killer.
Visits to a prostitute begin to become first a fantasy and then a possibility that’s increasingly entertained only when a relationship is beginning to show irreparable cracks in which case they are no more the cause of its break up than say the rising of a full moon. But I started this article with the supposition that legalized prostitution is actually good for relationships and I need to explain why.
Even in our days, far too many relationships, start on the basis of fulfilling a sexual need as a primary starting point, and perhaps a great many others use the same excuse to begin to disintegrate rather than look inwards, be honest and see if they can be repaired. The easy availability of paid-for sex, without the attendant emotional role play suddenly takes the pressure of both sexes and makes it easier to choose to embark on a relationship with someone for the right reasons, rather than the wrong ones.
The days when we’d be trapped in a loveless relationship because we wanted to have sex and were then too afraid or too honorable to back out of it have absolutely no place in a modern 21st century society.
